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    <title>Americans: Undecided About God?</title>
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    <id>tag:www.karenherrick.com,2011:/blog//1.19</id>

    <published>2011-12-20T16:53:25Z</published>
    <updated>2012-03-28T01:18:40Z</updated>

    <summary><![CDATA[Eric Weiner wrote an editorial in the New York Times on December 11, 2011 (p. 5)&nbsp;with the above title.&nbsp; He stated "For a nation of talker and self-confessors, we are terrible at talking about religion" and that William James, sometimes...]]></summary>
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        <![CDATA[<p>Eric Weiner wrote an editorial in the New York Times on December 11, 2011 (p. 5)&nbsp;with the above title.&nbsp; He stated "For a nation of talker and self-confessors, we are terrible at talking about religion" and that William James, sometimes called the Father of American Psychology stated that "Truth is what works."&nbsp; Mr. Weiner imagines "a religious space that celebrates doubt, encourages experimentation and allows one to utter the word God without embarassment.&nbsp; A religious operating system for the 'Nones,' as he calls himself and others, among us."&nbsp; This religious or spiritual space he discusses is one that my clients and I created and create in spirituality group/s.&nbsp; They&nbsp;are highly interactive and allow people to validate their spiritual experiences with others.&nbsp; Below is part of&nbsp;my answer to Mr Weiner:</p>
<p>"I read with great interest your editorial when you spoke about Wm James "truth is what works."&nbsp; I would also add to that:&nbsp; "A true idea is one that agrees with reality."&nbsp; I have run spirituality groups since 2003.&nbsp; I start with the premise that a spiritual experience is a transcendent relationship between a person and a Higher Being.&nbsp; It has a quality that goes beyond a specific religious affiliation.&nbsp; Wm James called them religious experiences and said there were two types:&nbsp; gradual and immediate.&nbsp; Either way, they give a new level of spiritual reality - perceiving truths not known before.&nbsp; </p>
<p>The September 5, 2005 issue of Newsweek devoted to spirituality stated that "Americans are looking for personal, ecstatic experiences of God (Adler, 2005, p. 46."&nbsp; I've read statistics that from 14-40% of americans are spiritual.&nbsp; A loose definition is that they believe in God, the Bible and the Golden Rule. </p>
<p>Some of James' examples of spiritual or religious experiences were:</p>
<p>Voices are often heard, Lights seen, Visions witnessed, and it always seems, after the surrender of the personal will, as if an extraneous higher power had flooded in and taken possession.&nbsp; Sense of renovation, safety, cleaness, rightness, can be so marvelous and jubilant as well to warrant one's belief in a radically new substantial nature...</p>
<p>Spirituality was almost legitimized in 1994 when the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders added a new V-Code "Religious and Spiritual Problem"&nbsp; Statistics used in order to enter this manual were that 30-40% of the population in the United States and England were having experiences that are labeled spiritual.&nbsp; (This diagnosis eventually was so watered down that most therapists and people&nbsp;don't know about these statistics or anything about the diagnosis.)&nbsp; The two spiritual experiences used to be incorporated into the manual were mystical experiences and near-death experiences.&nbsp; Now that statistic is 30-50% of the populations are having them. </p>
<p>The people in my groups were told this statistic - that they were not crazy because they've had some weird things happen to them.&nbsp; And when they were given some characteristics of a spiritual experience:&nbsp; A sense of becoming one with other people, with nature or with the entire universe, A transcendence of time and space, A sense of sacredness/numinosity and Strong positive emotions (profound peace, exuberant joy, ecstatic rapture, etc), they realized they had experienced these things that they could now call spiritual. </p>
<p>Spiritual experiences will vary among cultures.&nbsp; But, mostly James was correct. They help people greatly and when people discuss their specific ones in a group, it brings them closer together because they resonate with each other regardless of race, religion or creed.&nbsp; Mostly, they also realize there is truly only one God."</p><p><p><b><p><b>Author's Note:</b> I have taken off the comments portion of this blog as I was getting a great deal of Spam comments. All of these articles may still be read from the blog. If you would like to comment or talk to me, either by phone or email, please click on the "contact us" link for more information. Thanks so much for your cooperation.</p><div><br /></div></b></p></p><p><br /></p><p>...<br /></p>
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    <title>Children from Addictive Families</title>
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    <id>tag:www.karenherrick.com,2011:/blog//1.18</id>

    <published>2011-10-24T17:14:34Z</published>
    <updated>2012-03-28T01:20:07Z</updated>

    <summary><![CDATA[Children from addicted families take on roles that have certain characteristics.&nbsp; This is how the roles show in a family but they do not necessarily have to appear in this order:&nbsp; The oldest child is usually the Hero who is...]]></summary>
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        <![CDATA[<p class="MsoNormal">Children from addicted families take on roles that have
certain characteristics.<span>&nbsp; </span>This is how the
roles show in a family but they do not necessarily have to appear in this
order:&nbsp;</p>

<ol style="margin-top:0in" start="1" type="1">
 <li class="MsoNormal">The oldest child is
     usually <b>the Hero</b> who is overly
     responsible, does well in school or sports, and brings pride to the
     family.<span>&nbsp; </span></li>
 <li class="MsoNormal"><b>The Scapegoat</b> child gets attention through negative behavior,
     maybe is sick a lot, has a </li>
 <li class="MsoNormal"><b>The Lost Child</b> is shy, quiet and introverted. When they do
     come out of their rooms, they tend to follow their siblings.<span>&nbsp; </span></li>
 <li class="MsoNormal"><b>The Mascot</b> or the clown use humor in either a positive or
     negative way to get attention.<span>&nbsp; </span></li>
 <li class="MsoNormal">In some models there is a <b>Placator</b> child who takes care of
     others and tries to make everyone happy.</li></ol>

<p class="MsoNormal"><span>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;</span>Children of
addiction need to know that they are not alone.<span>&nbsp;
</span>They have such shame about what's going on in their families (which is
sometimes why they prefer to isolate in life) and they need to know that other
children have parents or relatives who use addictive substances.<span>&nbsp; </span>They also need to know that what's going on
with their parents isn't their fault.<span>&nbsp;
</span>Blaming themselves for their parents' addiction leads to low self
esteem.<span>&nbsp; </span>They need to know that addiction
is a disease.<span>&nbsp; </span>That their parents are
sick, not evil and that addicted people can and do recover.<span>&nbsp; </span>They also need to know that they deserve help
for themselves and that there are adults in school systems, at churches, in
therapy offices and in their lives who will be able to help them.&nbsp;</p>

<p class="MsoNormal"><span>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>These roles
in childhood and adulthood are discussed further in Karen's book. You can check
out Karen's book here, <a href="http://bookstore.authorhouse.com/Products/SKU-000459121/Youre-Not-Finished-Yet.aspx">at
AuthorHouse.com.</a></p><p class="MsoNormal"><p class="MsoNormal"><b>Author's Note:</b> I have taken off the comments portion of this blog as I was getting a great deal of Spam comments. All of these articles may still be read from the blog. If you would like to comment or talk to me, either by phone or email, please click on the "contact us" link for more information. Thanks so much for your cooperation.</p><div><br /></div></p>

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<entry>
    <title>Excellent movie about ghosts</title>
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    <published>2008-12-14T20:49:14Z</published>
    <updated>2012-03-28T01:20:57Z</updated>

    <summary><![CDATA[It's a fantasy comedy entitled "Ghost Town," which takes place in New York City concerning a dentist who gains the ability to communicate with the dead after experiencing a Near-Death Experience during a routine dental surgery.&nbsp; (Many people who have...]]></summary>
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        <![CDATA[<p>It's a fantasy comedy entitled "Ghost Town," which takes place in New York City concerning a dentist who gains the ability to communicate with the dead after experiencing a Near-Death Experience during a routine dental surgery.&nbsp; (Many people who have Near-Death Experiences return with psychic abilities.)&nbsp; </p>
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<p>The ghosts who appear in the movie have "unfinished business," which is one of the biggest reasons that ghosts do appear to humans.&nbsp; When the ghosts&nbsp;begin requesting that the dentist act as a point person between the living world and the spirit world, the dentist does his best to ensure that the messages of the dead reach their intended recipients.&nbsp; (But not before we get to see how narcissistic and self-centered he is.&nbsp; Once he believes that the spirits are "real" and he acquires some empathy for them, then he is helpful.)&nbsp; It's an excellent movie and the shots of New York City are very enjoyable.&nbsp; </p>
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<p>Starring Ricky Gervais, Tea Leoni, Greg Kinnear, Billy Campbell, Dana Ivey, Kristen Wiigmore.&nbsp; This movie was released 9/19/2008 and is rated PG-13 due to some strong language, sexual humor and drug references.&nbsp; Distributor:&nbsp; Dream Works</p><p><p><b>Author's Note:</b> I have taken off the comments portion of this blog as I was getting a great deal of Spam comments. All of these articles may still be read from the blog. If you would like to comment or talk to me, either by phone or email, please click on the "contact us" link for more information. Thanks so much for your cooperation.</p><div><br /></div></p><p><br /></p>]]>
        
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    <title>Answer to question are we born with courage, etc. or do we acquire it in life on our journey?</title>
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    <published>2008-08-26T14:35:21Z</published>
    <updated>2012-03-28T01:21:46Z</updated>

    <summary><![CDATA[This is the old question of nuture vs nature.&nbsp; Are we born with a quality or do we have that quality instilled in us due to living in our families?&nbsp; I believe we are made up of basically three items:&nbsp;...]]></summary>
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        <![CDATA[<p>This is the old question of nuture vs nature.&nbsp; Are we born with a quality or do we have that quality instilled in us due to living in our families?&nbsp; I believe we are made up of basically three items:&nbsp; 1)&nbsp; Our basic personality 2)The family in which we are raised 3) The culture in which we are raised.&nbsp; So, the biggest reason you may be different from your siblings is that your basic personality is different from theirs.&nbsp; Also, your parents were in a different place and&nbsp;had different growth patterns when they were raising you versus when they were raising your sibling/s.&nbsp; The culture may have changed a bit also when you were raised versus the culture your siblings were raised in.&nbsp; </p>
<p>Another thought that comes to me is a List of Human Needs that I learned from a psychology book.&nbsp; This list was written by Henry Murray and came from Psychogenic Needs, Psychology It's Principles and Meanings, 3rd edition, Holt Rinehart &amp; Winsont, NY, 1979 edition.&nbsp; I have put Dr. Murray's list into categories of Support, Intimacy, Submissiveness and Aggression (Positive and Negative).&nbsp; They are as follows:</p>
<p>SUPPORT contains deference, succorance, understanding, affiliation and&nbsp;nurturance.</p>
<p>INTIMACY contains sentience, sex, exhibition and play.</p>
<p>SUBMISSIVENESS contains abasement, harmavoidance, infavoidance and rejection.</p>
<p>AGGRESSION (Positive &amp; Negative) contains achievement, autonomy, counteraction, defendance, dominance and order.&nbsp; (Please Note:&nbsp; Some people from dysfunctional homes require a high amount of order in their adult lives probably because they didn't have as much order when they were growing up as they would have liked.)</p>
<p>Since these words aren't as common now, I will list definitions that Dr Murray gave for them:</p>
<p><u>SUPPORT</u></p>
<p><u>Deference</u> - To admire and support a superior.&nbsp; To praise, honor or eulogize, to conform to custom.</p>
<p><u>Succorance</u> - To be nursed, supported, sustained, surrounded, protected, loved, advised, guided, indulged, forgiven, consoled.</p>
<p><u>Understanding</u> - To ask or answer general questions.&nbsp; To be interested in theory.&nbsp; To speculate, formulate abstractly, analyze and generalize.</p>
<p><u>Affiliation</u> - To draw near and enjoy cooperation or reciprocation with an allied other.&nbsp; To adhere and remain loyal to a friend.</p>
<p><u>Nurturance</u> - To give sympathy to and gratify the needs of a helpless other.&nbsp; To feed, help, support, console, protect, comfort, nurse, and heal.</p>
<p><u>INTIMACY</u></p>
<p><u>Sentience</u> - To seek and enjoy sensuous impressions.</p>
<p><u>Sex</u> - To form and further an erotic relationship.&nbsp; To have sexual intercourse.</p>
<p><u>Exhibition </u>- To excite, amaze, fascinate, entertain, sock, intrigue, amuse or entice others.</p>
<p><u>Play</u>&nbsp; - To seek enjoyable relaxation of stress (Some adults from dysfunctional homes have a great deal of trouble just playing in life due to the fact that life was so stressful and serious when they were children.)</p>
<p><u>SUBMISSIVENESS - </u>To submit passively to external force.&nbsp; To accept injury, blame, criticism and punishment.&nbsp; (Again, people raised in some&nbsp;dysfunctional homes may&nbsp;learn to be&nbsp;very&nbsp;submissive because they have been trained to do so in a family where there was only "one way" to do most things.&nbsp; Individuality is usually not rewarded in a dysfunctional home).</p>
<p><u>Abasement</u> - To admit inferiority, error, wrong doing or defeat.&nbsp; (Again, people in some dysfunctional homes had parents who unduly criticized and yelled at them during childhood.&nbsp; This means that these people, now in their lives,&nbsp;would attract people who would criticize and attack them because their abasement level is high.&nbsp; They need to admit inferiority or wrong doing.&nbsp; It has become part of their need that's necessary now in their&nbsp;life.) </p>
<p><u>Harmavoidance </u>- To admit inferiority, error, wrongdoing or defeat.</p>
<p><u>Infavoidance</u> - To avoid humiliation.&nbsp; To leave embarassing situations or avoid conditions that may lead to belittlement.&nbsp; To refrain from action because of the fear of failure.&nbsp; (Therefore, avoidance becomes the most popular defense mechanism, which leads to many people not experiencing success very often in their lives).</p>
<p><u>Rejection</u> - To exclude, abandon, expel or remain indifferent to an inferior other.</p>
<p><u>AGGRESSION (Positive &amp; Negative)</u></p>
<p><u>Achievement</u> - To accomplish something difficult.&nbsp; To master manipulate or organize physical objects, human beings, or ideas as rapidly and as independently as possible.&nbsp; To surpass others and excel oneself.</p>
<p><u>Autonomy</u> - To get free, shake off restraint, break out of confinement.&nbsp; To resist coercion and restriction.&nbsp; To be independent and free to act according to impulse.</p>
<p><u>Counteraction</u> - To efface a dishonor by action.&nbsp; To search for obstacles and difficulties to overcome.&nbsp; </p>
<p><u>Defendance</u> - To defend the self against assault, criticism and blame.&nbsp; To conceal or justify a misdeed, failure or humiliation.</p>
<p><u>Dominance</u> - To control one's human environment.&nbsp; To influence or direct the behavior of others by suggestion, seduction, persuasion or command.&nbsp; To dissuade, restrain or&nbsp;prohibit.</p>
<p><u>Order</u> - To put things in order, to achieve cleanliness, arrangement, organization, balance, neatness, tidiness and precision.&nbsp; </p><p><p><b>Author's Note:</b> I have taken off the comments portion of this blog as I was getting a great deal of Spam comments. All of these articles may still be read from the blog. If you would like to comment or talk to me, either by phone or email, please click on the "contact us" link for more information. Thanks so much for your cooperation.</p><div><br /></div></p><p><br /></p>
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<entry>
    <title>Normal &amp; Expected Reactions to Spiritual Experiences</title>
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    <published>2008-07-05T17:22:32Z</published>
    <updated>2012-03-28T01:22:23Z</updated>

    <summary><![CDATA[A)&nbsp;&nbsp; Anger B)&nbsp;&nbsp; Depression C)&nbsp;&nbsp; Interpersonal Difficulties If you are living with someone who has had a Spiritual Experience (SE)&nbsp;of any kind, you may have concern for this type of reaction of your loved one.&nbsp; However, itis due to the...]]></summary>
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        <![CDATA[<p>A)&nbsp;&nbsp; Anger</p>
<p>B)&nbsp;&nbsp; Depression</p>
<p>C)&nbsp;&nbsp; Interpersonal Difficulties </p>
<p>If you are living with someone who has had a Spiritual Experience (SE)&nbsp;of any kind, you may have concern for this type of reaction of your loved one.&nbsp; However, itis due to the ongoing anger or depression related to losing the spiritual state, difficulty reconciling the SE with previous religious beliefs, values or life style and the fear that having a SE might indicate mental instability.&nbsp; </p>
<p>Once someone has been given a chance to explain their SE and have this experience validated, they eventually have an increased appreciation for life, self-acceptance, concern for others and a sense of purpose.&nbsp; They may also have a decreased concern for personal status and material possssion and an overall shift toward universalistic spiritual values regardless of previous religious affiliations or lack thereof. </p>
<p>Are you living with someone who has had a SE or have you had one and you're confused?&nbsp; Please write any of your concerns and I'll be happy to get back to you.&nbsp; Blessings Karen</p>
<p><b>Author's Note:</b> I have taken off the comments portion of this blog as I was getting a great deal of Spam comments. All of these articles may still be read from the blog. If you would like to comment or talk to me, either by phone or email, please click on the "contact us" link for more information. Thanks so much for your cooperation.</p><p><div><br /></div></p>
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<entry>
    <title>Therapy for Sane Hallucinations</title>
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    <id>tag:www.karenherrick.com,2008:/blog//1.14</id>

    <published>2008-06-25T13:21:49Z</published>
    <updated>2012-03-28T01:25:24Z</updated>

    <summary><![CDATA[Abstract &nbsp; There has been a scarcity of literature related to the spiritual experiences (hereinafter sometimes referred to as SEs) of mental health, allied healing professionals and their clients.&nbsp; When 133 professionals, who attended an educational workshop where they were...]]></summary>
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        <![CDATA[<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: center" align="center"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><i><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman">Abstract<o:p></o:p></font></font></font></i></b></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="BORDER-RIGHT: medium none; PADDING-RIGHT: 0in; BORDER-TOP: medium none; PADDING-LEFT: 0in; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0in; MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; BORDER-LEFT: medium none; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in; PADDING-TOP: 0in; BORDER-BOTTOM: medium none; mso-border-bottom-alt: solid windowtext 1.5pt; mso-padding-alt: 0in 0in 1.0pt 0in"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal">There has been a scarcity of literature related to the spiritual experiences (hereinafter sometimes referred to as SEs) of mental health, allied healing professionals and their clients.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>When 133 professionals, who attended an educational workshop where they were asked about the SEs of themselves and their clients, eighty-seven percent of respondents stated that a personal SE had affected their life in a positive way.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Eighty-five percent of them recognized and felt their clients had been positively affected by their SEs.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Forty-two percent of the research subjects took the initiative to read an article or a book on the subject of spirituality in the year since attending the workshop.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>A spirituality group facilitated for approximately three years by the author (</i>Herrick, K. E., Rev., 2005, pp. 25-34)<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal"> showed that it may be common for attendees of only one workshop, like the survey research group, to underreport these experiences when asked to describe in only one reporting.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>In keeping with the theme of this conference, SEs such as examples of communication with someone who has died from both the survey research group and the spirituality group are discussed.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>SEs, especially the type that give evidence for life after death, can also be described using an 1800's term "sane hallucinations."<o:p></o:p></i></font></font></font></b></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>This author's research objective was to demonstrate that through an educational experience that taught about spirituality and SEs, a person could be taught to recognize SEs, also known as spiritual emergencies.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Spiritual emergence results from having SEs of all kinds from conversion experiences to anomalous experiences.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Likewise, the study was to contribute in the development of a consensus that SEs can and do happen and that a professional's positive response to these experiences can determine whether the experience is integrated and used as a stimulus for personal growth versus being repressed as a bizarre event that may signal mental instability.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span></font></font></font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>The study was based on the 104 responses (78% net return) at educational workshops on Spiritual Experiences and Psychotherapy.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>Participants self-selected this experience by attending the educational workshops given at different locations and conferences.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>There was an education emphasis with fifty-seven percent of the attendees having a Masters Degree and with twenty-three percent having a Post Masters.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>85% of the attendees were female and 15% were male.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>The average age was forty-seven years. </font></font></font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman">The methodology consisted of pre- and post-test questionnaires administered before and after the presentation.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>A follow-up survey was given by telephone or through the mail within the following year.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Fifty percent of the respondents stated that the definition "An SE is the transcendent relationship between the person and a Higher Being, a quality that goes beyond a specific religious affiliation" was most influential to them from the workshop.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span></font></font></font></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>The study showed an eighty-seven percent increase in learning about SEs and eighty-three percent of the respondents recognized such experiences in their clients.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>It was also indicated that respondents need further training in recognizing the differences between spiritual and psychotic experiences.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span></font></font></font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>Rich comments from the qualitative research showed that the workshop was a confirmation and reminder of what the professionals already knew.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>It was a remembering or a confirmation; the study provided a structure where that could happen.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>The structure the workshops created could indicate that mental health professionals need more networking opportunities, such as this setting created, in order to have conversation among themselves, which has been called for by Mansager (2004) and could lead to a higher level of spiritual understanding stated by Warren (1993).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>(For those interested in the contents of this educational workshop:<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>It was given and taped on cassette number 2299 for the ASPSI conference entitled "Paranormal Experience and Spirituality" in <st1:place w:st="on"><st1:city w:st="on">Cherry Hill</st1:city>, <st1:state w:st="on">NJ</st1:state></st1:place>, on June 10, 2006.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>The cassette tape is entitled "Spirituality Legitimized...Almost."<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>You can purchase this tape from ASPSI archives.)<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></font></font></font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>The results of Ross and Joshi's (1992) study showed that paranormal/extrasensory experiences were common in the general population.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>On June 8, 2001, it was stated by The Gallup Poll that 28% of a randomly selected national sample of 1,102 adults reportedly believe that people can hear or communicate mentally with someone who has died.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>This is a 10% increase from 1990 (Newport &amp; Strausberg, 2001, p 2).</font></font></font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman">Also stated by Ring (1992), the ability to have paranormal experiences was linked to a history of childhood trauma and to other dissociative symptom clusters.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Ring proposed a model in which paranormal experiences (any kind of supernatural experience, mental telepathy, precognition, telekinesis, precognitive dreams, déjà vu, an extrasensory experience, possession by a demon, dead person, living person, or some other power or force, contact with ghosts, poltergeists, or spirits of any kind, knowledge of past lives and involvement with cults) can be triggered by trauma, especially childhood physical or sexual abuse.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span></font></font></font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><font face="Times New Roman" color="#000000" size="3">Since the Second World War, and especially since 1980, the relationships among childhood trauma, dissociation, and hypnosis have been increasingly studied and understood (Bliss, 1986; Putnam, 1989; Ross, 1989).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>According to Ross &amp; Joshi (1992) in an article entitled, "Paranormal Experiences in the General Population," "It appears that of four interlinked phenomena (childhood trauma, dissociation, hypnosis, and paranormal experience), paranormal experiences will be the last to become a subject of modern scientific inquiry within psychiatry" (pp. 357 - 359).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>It is here that the author's small research study fit. </font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman"><span style="mso-bidi-font-weight: bold">It is important to remember in the interpretation of paranormal or extrasensory experiences having to do with communicating with the dead and seeing the dead that James and his colleagues presented a report in 1898, that was written in 1894, at the International Congress of Experimental Psychology, held in Paris, which was "the statistical inquiry into the spontaneous hallucinations of the sane" (Sidgwick, Eleanor, Sidgwick, Henry, Johnson, Alice, Myers, Frederic &amp; Podmore, Frank, 1894, p. 25), entitled "Census of Hallucinations." <span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp;</span>This report was specifically tabulated and general conclusions made "as seemed likely to interest psychologists generally who might be studying the phenomenon of hallucination" (Sidgwick et al., 1894, p. 25).</span> </font></font></font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>The report was begun in order to question the truthfulness of some hallucinations especially visual hallucinations under certain conditions such as grief and anxiety.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>The original reason for this report was to examine the evidence for telepathy.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Telepathy was described as "That thoughts and feelings in one mind, conveyed somehow otherwise than through the recognized channels of sense"...and that telepathy happens "across a considerable distance of space" (p. 26).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>The dying person was usually "dying or passing through some other crisis at the time" (Sidgwick et al., 1894, p. 30).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span></font></font></font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><span style="mso-bidi-font-weight: bold"><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman">The report stated: "These, (meaning apparitions or ghost reports), are the most important, because they are the most numerous, and because they afford the means of estimating precisely the improbability of explanation by chance.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>We have shown that after making the most ample allowance for all ascertainable sources of error, the number of these experiences remains far greater than the hypothesis of chance coincidence will account for"<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>(Sidgwick et al., 1894, p. 393).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span><o:p></o:p></font></font></font></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>The dying person usually appeared in familiar clothing, a cold shudder was reported to precede or accompany the hallucination and "cases of recognized apparitions occurring within twelve hours of the death, the death being unknown to the percipient at the time" suggests "that there is no discontinuity at death" (pp. 398 &amp; 401).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>"A large proportion of these hallucinations occurred in bed, many soon after waking, sometimes apparently caused by a dream" (Sidgwick et al., 1894, p. 397).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span></font></font></font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>Spirituality can just be described as simply experiencing the spirit.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Positive indicators for experiencing a spirit or having a SE are "when the person has had good pre-episode functioning, has a preserved and observing ego about the experience, has sufficient inner strength to proceed in therapy, and shows improved post-episode functioning"<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>(Turner et al, 1995, pp. 437-438).</font></font></font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l4 level1 lfo3; tab-stops: list .5in"><font face="Times New Roman"><span style="mso-list: Ignore"><font color="#000000"><font size="3">1)</font><span style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></font></span><font size="3"><font color="#000000">That we are "attached" and "in communication with" others whether or not they are physically present to us.<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><u><o:p></o:p></u></b></font></font></font></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l4 level1 lfo3; tab-stops: list .5in"><font face="Times New Roman"><span style="mso-list: Ignore"><font color="#000000"><font size="3">2)</font><span style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></font></span><font size="3"><font color="#000000">That although I have always been very open to the idea of life after death, since my experience, there is no doubt. <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><u><o:p></o:p></u></b></font></font></font></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l4 level1 lfo3; tab-stops: list .5in"><font face="Times New Roman"><span style="mso-list: Ignore"><font color="#000000"><font size="3">3)</font><span style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></font></span><font size="3"><font color="#000000">Enjoy life and love.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>In the end of life, we are reunited with our family.<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><u><o:p></o:p></u></b></font></font></font></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l4 level1 lfo3; tab-stops: list .5in"><font face="Times New Roman"><span style="mso-list: Ignore"><font color="#000000"><font size="3">4)</font><span style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></font></span><font size="3"><font color="#000000">I have a stronger belief in life after death &amp; believe "they", our loved ones, are not so far away beyond life as we know it.<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><u><o:p></o:p></u></b></font></font></font></p>
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<p class="MsoBodyTextIndent" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l3 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .5in"><font face="Times New Roman"><span style="mso-list: Ignore"><font color="#000000"><font size="3">1)</font><span style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></font></span><font color="#000000" size="3">I absolutely believe I communicated with my sister. I went to a medium and she brought me messages from my sister. My sister acknowledged there had been twins born in the family. She told me not to give up on men. She told me who both of her children were and told me to say hello to them. I just felt so good to know that she's really "out there" and watching. It validated for me that there really is another side.</font></font></p>
<p class="MsoBodyTextIndent" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l3 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .5in"><font face="Times New Roman"><span style="mso-list: Ignore"><font color="#000000"><font size="3">2)</font><span style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></font></span><font color="#000000" size="3">There are so many of my loved ones that have made their translation to the other side...I communicate with them all the time...it's like speaking with them over the phone or sending emails.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>I may not see them but I know they surround me with much loving which definitely convinces me of God's existence.</font></font></p>
<p class="MsoBodyTextIndent" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in"><font face="Times New Roman" color="#000000" size="3">3)<span style="mso-tab-count: 1">&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>My first time was when I was re-birthed a year after my husband died. I was on a massage table and he appeared over the table. He was telling me how to raise our young sons. He would come to my bed at night and kind of float over the bed. He has been in my bed where I can feel his back. I feel him following me around.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoBodyTextIndent" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in"><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman">4)<span style="mso-tab-count: 1">&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>I meditate frequently and can now leave my body at will and go to the other side.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>I have spoken with my sister, sister-in-law and a fifteen-year old classmate of my daughter who committed suicide.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>After her funeral, I was very upset and sought to find out whether she was being "cared for 'on the other side'."<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>I "crossed over" through meditation and met with my sister and sister-in-law, both who have died.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>There were others there who I did not know.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>I asked if they had met this child and what was happening since her death.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>They "told" me and showed me that the child had crossed over and was being cared for by several guides.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>They told me the death was an accident and she was not fully in control.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>The feeling "on the other side" was heartbreaking.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>All knew the pain she was feeling.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>They told me she was "all right" but that did not mean "happy."<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>It meant she was and would continue to be taken care of until she was healed.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>The feeling "on the other side" was of sadness - great sadness for this child.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span></font></font></font></p>
<p class="MsoBodyTextIndent" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l8 level1 lfo2; tab-stops: list .5in"><font face="Times New Roman"><span style="mso-list: Ignore"><font color="#000000"><font size="3">5)</font><span style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></font></span><font color="#000000" size="3">Once when I was sick and still recovering from pneumonia, I went to the <st1:placename w:st="on">Smokey</st1:placename> <st1:placetype w:st="on">Mountains</st1:placetype> in <st1:state w:st="on">North Carolina</st1:state> and stayed in a hotel in the town of <st1:place w:st="on"><st1:city w:st="on">Maggie</st1:city></st1:place> Valley next to the Cherokee Indian reservation.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>There I experienced an encounter with an apparition during the night.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>I was awake at the time.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>I was quite frightened and closed my eyes but I could feel its presence as it passed over me several times.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Each time I felt a strong chill throughout my body.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>I put on a light next to my bed and the apparition disappeared.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>When I awoke the next day I knew right away I had been cured of my pneumonia.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>I did not have any chest congestion.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>My cough was gone and I was able to breathe comfortably for the first time in weeks.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Later I learned about a ghost named "Bojum" who once was a miner for jewels in these mountains.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>It was said he roamed about at night looking for his stash of gemstones.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Interestingly, there was a gemstone convention and exhibit taking place right next to our hotel at the time of my visit.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>I also later learned that at the turn of the century there was a sanitarium nearby for TB patients as well as for other respiratory problems. It was widely known for its wonderful cures.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>This is an experience I will never forget!</font></font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><font face="Times New Roman" color="#000000" size="3">"A form of spirituality has been labeled <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal">quest religiosity</b> (Batson &amp; Ventis, 1982) From this perspective; religion is a never-ending personal journey toward truth.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>People who are primarily quest-oriented are open-minded about spiritual matters and don't expect to find simple answers to complex spiritual and moral issues."<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>(Batson &amp; Burris, 1994) as quoted in Kenrick, Neuberg &amp; Cialdini (2005), p. 367.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><font face="Times New Roman" color="#000000" size="3">From a social psychology perspective, group members were "quest-oriented" as they saw their spiritual role as finding their journey, "following their bliss," a Joseph Campbell (1972) <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal">The Hero with a Thousand Faces</i> term.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>They became aware that there were different truths and wisdom.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>In looking for evidence for life after death, we are looking for proof that in a human being there is a component that is not physical.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>In Kelsey (2007, p. 74), he explains "that the Soul starts as the particle of energy, derived from God, which organizes the different parts of an atom."<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>As the Soul "gains experience...it grows larger."<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>The Soul can be called the spirit or the non-physical part of the human body.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>It is this spirit that is called an apparition or ghost that was studied by James and his colleagues in the 1890s. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp;</span>This spirit or spirits have been contacted and reported in the responses of the participants of the survey research, spirituality groups and clients in general and are discussed herein.</font></font></font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><font face="Times New Roman" color="#000000" size="3">We can turn to the early Greek philosophers to learn more about the Soul.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Aristotle (384 - 322 BC) believed that the Soul was how man lived, felt and understood life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Plato ("427? - 347?" BC) (The World Book Encyclopedia, 2002, Vol. 1, p. 567) believed that learning is really reminiscence because one was remembering knowledge formerly acquired by the Soul in a previous state of existence.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>He also believed the Soul continued to live forever.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Socrates (469 - 399 BC) held that the soul existed before the body and, prior to being born into a human body, it contained all knowledge.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Edgar Cayce, the famous American psychic, has been known to have said that the soul or spirit is our life force.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>It is this author's belief that with our mind working through our brain, we learn about the pattern/s of this life force or soul while "following our bliss."</font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman">Thomas Edison was known to have said that if the Soul survived, then "it is strictly logical or scientific to assume that it retains memory, intellect, other faculties and knowledge that we acquire on this Earth" (Macy, 2002, p. 20).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>It is said that before <st1:place w:st="on">Edison</st1:place> died he was working on a machine that would make recordings of souls from the other side.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span></font></font></font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><font face="Times New Roman" color="#000000" size="3">In the practice of therapy regarding sane hallucinations or the paranormal, a therapist hears many wonderful and weird stories that involve belief in this non-physical part of the human body.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Many times clients had used drugs and alcohol because they were having paranormal SEs that they considered "weird."<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Once they learn about SEs and/or paranormal experiences and understand them, they can then understand themselves better.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Some even develop an interest in the paranormal as a vocation.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><font face="Times New Roman" color="#000000" size="3">All of these types of SEs aide clients in the understanding of the spirit or non-physical part of them and others. The client SEs discussed here belong in the categories of:</font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>Clients report this experience feeling as if their "self" is located outside of their physical body and they can observe their body from a distance.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>In the beginning, clients report that they left their body "by mistake" and then eventually they could do it at will after learning to "space out."<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Some client's report when they use alcohol and drugs they cannot leave their body and others have reported it is possible to have an OBE when they are under the influence of alcohol and drugs.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>I have recommended that these clients connect with the Monroe Institute in <st1:place w:st="on"><st1:city w:st="on">Faber</st1:city>, <st1:state w:st="on">Virginia</st1:state></st1:place> to learn more about vibrational fields.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Some clients report that past lives and visits with UFOs are revealed to them during OBEs.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Some also report that they have left their bodies in moments of rage.</font></font></font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><font face="Times New Roman" color="#000000" size="3">For clients to realize these SEs happen where they can connect with their dead parents or ancestors is an important shift in their awareness.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Not only does it open up their thinking from their physical world to the invisible world of spirits but it increases their need for more knowledge of spiritual subjects and a moving outside of their life to a bigger world of meeting other people with the same beliefs.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>In 2007, the Associated Press reported that 34% of Americans believe in ghosts.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Some client stories indicating this shift in awareness are:</font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>"The nurse said to open the bedroom window to let his spirit out and we did.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>It was like you see in a movie.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>His spirit looked like a white T-shirt.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>It was a good size and you could see it was something leaving the room."</font></font></font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span><u>During a time of crises in a family -<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span><o:p></o:p></u></font></font></font></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>"It was a floating, round ball and it followed me into my daughter's bedroom.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>She was in the hospital at the time.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>I felt it was my father being there for me during this time of crises."</font></font></font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>"One time it was this electrical "thing."<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>I could feel this energy that touched my hair.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>I felt it was my grandmother - my mother's mother.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>I was always very fond of her.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>She was a nice quiet woman. I had a feeling that this was her."</font></font></font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>Other adult clients have reported seeing spirits of grandparents as young children.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Some of them knew these grandparents and others had not known them personally but recognized these spirits from family photographs.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>They report that as children they felt comforted by these spirits and knew that the spirits wanted the best for them.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>One client reported "He had this silver light around his hair."</font></font></font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>Sexual encounters of widows and dead spouses prove to be very enjoyable.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>One such experience is:<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>"It was on the anniversary of Harry's death.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>I had been thinking about him all day realizing a great many things about our relationship and the positives in our marriage.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>I had this dream that was so vivid where he came to me and laid on top of me in a sexual way.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>This feeling of love just exploded inside of me and I had an orgasm.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>All of the negative feelings I had ever had about him just melted away.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>It was the most wonderful feeling I think I've ever had." </font></font></font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman">Incest survivors sometimes continue to set boundaries with parents or others who have been inappropriately sexual with them.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>The personal, psychological definition of incest that this author uses with clients is: Incest - A crime of power over a child that takes the form of sexual violation.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Incest includes suggestive or seductive talk or behavior directed at a child; any unwanted or invasive touching, including kissing, wrestling and tickling; non-medical enemas; showing a child pornography or exposing adult genitals to them; sexual fondling; oral sex and/or sexual intercourse (Source Unknown).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span></font></font></font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><font face="Times New Roman" color="#000000" size="3">Some clients have the feeling of the presence in certain parts of their house or during certain activities and may write a letter or talk to this ghost or apparition by stating:</font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 1in; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l6 level1 lfo5; tab-stops: list 1.0in"><font color="#000000"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol"><span style="mso-list: Ignore"><font size="3">·</font><span style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">I do not want you to enter my bedroom ever again.</font></font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><font face="Times New Roman" color="#000000" size="3">It has been reported by clients who have written these letters or spoken directly to the ghost that the presence is then gone and has not returned.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Some clients ask the spirit to come to them in a dream where they can discuss these boundaries.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>This setting of boundaries with the spirit the way the client integrates assertiveness into their soul.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>This strengthens them in this life and in other lives they may have.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>This is a non-ordinary state of consciousness in other historical periods and/or other countries usually associated with powerful emotions, physical sensations and a convincing sense of personally remembering and reliving something one had experienced previously.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Christy (March/April 2008, p. 19) reported "The Harris Poll (2003) stated that 27% of Americans believe in reincarnation.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>In the age group 25-29, 40% believe in reincarnation." </font></font></font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><font face="Times New Roman" color="#000000" size="3">Best selling books have helped to bring this concept into the mainstream.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>This author explains the reincarnation concept to clients with past lives as just being an extension of their unconscious and being located in the collective unconscious.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Carl Jung, a famous early psychologist, has been known to state that past lives were part of our psychic heredity.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman"><u>One client's memory</u><span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>- </font></font></font></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><font face="Times New Roman" color="#000000" size="3">"I was on that hill in <st1:country-region w:st="on"><st1:place w:st="on">Ireland</st1:place></st1:country-region>.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>I could feel it and taste it.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>I went through time and space.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>I was a little chap wearing kickers.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>I was fishing and clamming.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>I went back to the same area the next day and it wasn't as good.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>There was something about that place.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>I went there for a spiritual walk in the woods and when I was on 'that bridge,' I remembered I had been there one time prior.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>I would go back there.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>It's like another land."</font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>This author teaches that the importance of reincarnation in therapy is the attempt to understand the client's core issues from past lives.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>For example, it's very nice to know that at one time the client had an interest in and was a ceramic artist in <st1:city w:st="on"><st1:place w:st="on">Athens</st1:place></st1:city> in 1,200 BC.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>And, in this life, the client also does ceramics as a hobby.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>A past life core issue would be one where the client knows she or he was a victim of incest during a life in France in the 1700s and has also been a victim of incest in this life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>The purpose of therapy is to rid the soul of these incestuous issues, as much as possible, by working through them and to now be able to enjoy one's sexuality.</font></font></font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>Some clients <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal">know</i>:</font></font></font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 23.75pt"><font face="Times New Roman" color="#000000" size="3">Some clients describe other countries where they have lived.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Some <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal">know</i> it was Atlantis, <st1:place w:st="on"><st1:city w:st="on">Lemuria</st1:city>, <st1:country-region w:st="on">Egypt</st1:country-region></st1:place>, etc.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>Some have been told by psychics and mediums that they were in relationships previously.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Sometimes these relationships are problematic in the here and now because the people are already coupled with others.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Many times psychic or creative abilities begin to become stronger after a reincarnation meeting with another.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Sometimes my clients have "double memories."<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Something happens in their current life that reminds them of a past life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Many reincarnation relationships seem to be addictive.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Some of the qualities are:</font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>Three photographs, brought to me by clients over the years, will be shown at the ASPSI conference, "Beyond the Veil:<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Evidence for Life After Death" from Friday, May 30, to Monday June 2, 2008.</font></font></font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>Many of my clients visit mediums.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>A medium is a person who communicates with dead people or spirits.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Many times the spirit also materializes while the medium is communicating with them.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>One particular gifted medium who was investigated for eighteen years by James and his colleagues was Leonora Piper, a <st1:city w:st="on"><st1:place w:st="on">Boston</st1:place></st1:city> housewife.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>James and his colleagues also investigated some fraudulent mediums.</font></font></font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span><u>One client reported about her medium visit:</u><span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>"I went with my daughters to this medium they had visited right after my husband died.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>She had told my daughters where he had hidden some money in the house.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>They went home and found the money in the exact spot that the medium described.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>During this evening, Charlie wouldn't leave the medium alone.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>He kept talking and talking as he did in real life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>He wanted to give us a hug.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>He wanted to say he was sorry.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>He wanted me to tell him that I forgive him for his drug and alcohol use.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>He said he was really sorry for everything that happened in our marriage and that it was his fault.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>He told me there was nothing I could have done to stop him from using drugs and alcohol.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>The medium saw him with a wall around him not taking in any help he was offered.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>He said not to worry about him.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>That he was fine there.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>My daughter asked him if he had his breathing problem where he was and he stated, 'I don't have to breathe here.'<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>We asked about my father-in-law who recently passed and Charlie stated that both of his parents were with him."<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span></font></font></font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>Upon telling a professional about a SE, the client is no longer comfortable talking about their experience if the professional minimizes the experience or call it a hallucination, which indicates mental illness.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>An 1880s term such as "sane hallucinations" used by James and his colleagues could help clients understand the difference between a SE, their sane hallucination and a psychotic hallucination.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span></font></font></font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><font face="Times New Roman" color="#000000" size="3">A classic way to tell the difference between a "real" SE and mental illness is reported in Shorto (1999):<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>"One of the tip-offs to psychotic delusion, which has been known since James's time is grandiosity that a mystic is humbled by his experience, a psychotic inflated" (p. 7l).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Another difference between a mystic and someone with mental illness is that the former can choose to move into or out of the state of consciousness. </font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><font face="Times New Roman" color="#000000" size="3">A psychotic hallucination usually has no basis in fact.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>A SE is an individual experience and, eventually, gives an answer to the person having it.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>Also, with a SE, the person has a good ego, meaning they can tell you the same story over and over again and the story doesn't change.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><u><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman">A Spiritual Therapist<o:p></o:p></font></font></font></u></b></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><font size="3"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span>For a therapist to facilitate these types of SEs with clients, the author has found it is helpful if the therapist has:</font></font></font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 30pt; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l7 level1 lfo9; tab-stops: list 30.0pt"><font color="#000000"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol"><span style="mso-list: Ignore"><font size="3">·</font><span style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><font face="Times New Roman"><font size="3">An understanding of mental illness and addictions and to understand the difference between a psychotic and a sane hallucination. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp;</span>To also have an understanding of the varieties of <span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp;</span></font><font size="3">SEs.</font></font></font></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 30pt; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l7 level1 lfo9; tab-stops: list 30.0pt"><font color="#000000"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol"><span style="mso-list: Ignore"><font size="3">·</font><span style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">An understanding of the mind/body connection in order to teach the clients that their body is the most desirable vehicle to house the Soul in this life and that it needs to be well taken care of.</font></font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 30pt; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l7 level1 lfo9; tab-stops: list 30.0pt"><font color="#000000"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol"><span style="mso-list: Ignore"><font size="3">·</font><span style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">An understanding of religious beliefs and rituals of other cultures.</font></font></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 30pt; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l7 level1 lfo9; tab-stops: list 30.0pt"><font color="#000000"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol"><span style="mso-list: Ignore"><font size="3">·</font><span style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">An understanding of the client's belief or concept of their God or a Higher Power, which aides the client in co-creating with that God and/or the rituals of their choice, which enhances their present life.</font></font></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 30pt; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l7 level1 lfo9; tab-stops: list 30.0pt"><font color="#000000"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol"><span style="mso-list: Ignore"><font size="3">·</font><span style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">An understanding of and the ability to direct a client to professionals who use age-old divination systems, not limited to but including systems such as Astrology, Numerology, I Ching, Runes and Tarot cards, which aide the client in learning more about his or her soul's purpose in this life.</font></font></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt 30pt; TEXT-INDENT: -0.25in; mso-list: l7 level1 lfo9; tab-stops: list 30.0pt"><font color="#000000"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol"><span style="mso-list: Ignore"><font size="3">·</font><span style="FONT: 7pt 'Times New Roman'">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span></span><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">An understanding of the process of death, according to the client's beliefs, so as to aide the client in eventually making this a peaceful transition to the other side.</font></font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><font face="Times New Roman" color="#000000" size="3">It is recommended that future researchers help to establish a vocabulary of spirituality and SEs, from simple to difficult, for therapists to use when working with SEs with clients.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>We also need more narrative descriptions when collecting data.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 0.5in"><font face="Times New Roman" color="#000000" size="3">William C. Menninger, the first psychiatrist to be elevated to the rank of Brigadier General, and a group of colleagues met at the American Psychiatric Association (APA) in 1946 to found the Group for the Advancement of Psychiatry (GAP).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>This group drafted a report that urged that psychiatric insights be used in the service of social action to consciously change society.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>The September 5, 2005 issue of Newsweek stated that Americans are looking for an immediate, transcendent experience of God.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>No where in this article it was stated the psychiatric statistic used in developing the 1994 V-Code 62.89 "Religious and Spiritual Problem" that 30-50% of the population are now having these types of SEs.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>This author believes that spirituality in the <st1:country-region w:st="on"><st1:place w:st="on">United States</st1:place></st1:country-region> could be very different if psychiatric insights were used in the service of social action.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp; </span>It may definitely increase the statistic in the <st1:place w:st="on"><st1:country-region w:st="on">United States</st1:country-region></st1:place> that fourteen percent of the population now considers themselves "spiritual" (Van Biema, 2004).</font></p>
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<entry>
    <title>Communicating With Someone Who Has Died - Stories Of People Who Have</title>
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    <id>tag:www.karenherrick.com,2008:/blog//1.13</id>

    <published>2008-06-10T21:02:52Z</published>
    <updated>2012-03-28T01:26:52Z</updated>

    <summary><![CDATA[ 1)&nbsp;&nbsp; I absolutely believe I communicated with my sister. I went to a medium and she brought me messages from my sister. My sister acknowledged there had been twins born in the family. She told me not to give...]]></summary>
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1)<span>&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span>I absolutely believe I communicated with my sister. I went to a medium and she brought me messages from my sister. My sister acknowledged there had been twins born in the family. She told me not to give up on men. She told me who both of her children were and told me to say hello to them. I just felt so good to know that she's really "out there" and watching. It validated for me that there really is another side.</p><p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; text-indent: -0.25in;"><br />
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There are so many of my loved ones that have made 
their translation to the other side...I communicate with them all the time...it's 
like speaking with them over the phone or sending emails.<span>&nbsp; </span>I may not see them but I know they surround me with much loving which definitely convinces me of God's existence.
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3)<span>&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span>
My first time was when I was re-birthed a year after my husband died. I 
was on a massage table and he appeared over the table. He was telling me how to 
raise our young sons. He would come to my bed at night and kind of float over 
the bed. He has been in my bed where I can feel his back. I feel him following 
me around.My mother, father, uncle, grandparents and cousins 
have come to me in bed at different times. They appear when one of the family 
members they are particularly close to has a problem.</p><p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; text-indent: -0.25in;"><br /></p>
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4)<span>&nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp;</span></span>I meditate frequently and can now leave my body at 
will and go to the other side. I 
have spoken with my sister, sister-in-law and a fifteen-year old classmate of my 
daughter who committed suicide. My daughter's classmate had been depressed. She was taking Zoloft, an antidepressant drug. After her suicide, I inquired as to her 
illness and medication and the history of Zoloft, which we now know can cause 
suicide in young people by creating psychotic and compulsive acting out behavior 
of wanting to die. This child was highly functional, did well in school and was active in her youth group in church. She had attended a youth workshop the evening that she died. After her funeral, I was very upset and sought to find out whether she was being "cared for 'on the other side'." I "crossed over" through meditation and met with my sister and 
sister-in-law both who have died. There were others there who I did not know. I asked if they had met this child and  what was happening since her death. They "told" me and showed me that the child had crossed over and was being cared for by several guides. They told me the death was an accident and she was not fully in control. The feeling "on the other side" was heartbreaking. All knew the pain she was feeling. They told 
me she was "all right" but that did not mean "happy." It meant she was and would continue to be taken care of until she was healed. The feeling "on the other side" was of sadness - great sadness for this 
child. </p>
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5)<span>&nbsp;&nbsp; </span></span>Once when I was sick and still recovering from pneumonia, I went to the Smokey Mountains in North Carolina and stayed in a hotel in the town of Maggie Valley next to the Cherokee Indian reservation. There 
I experienced an encounter with a ghostly apparition during the night.<span> </span>I was awake at the time.<span> </span>I was quite frightened and closed my 
eyes but I could feel its presence as it passed over me several times.<span> </span>Each time I felt a strong chill 
throughout my body.<span> </span>I put on a 
light next to my bed and the apparition disappeared.<span> </span>When I awoke the next day I knew right 
away I had been cured of my pneumonia. I did not have any chest congestion. My cough was gone and I was able to 
breathe comfortably for the first time in weeks. Later I learned about a ghost named 
"Bojum" who once was a miner for jewels in these mountains. It was said he roamed about at night looking for his stash of gemstones.<span>&nbsp; 
</span><br /></p><p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; text-indent: -0.25in;"><font face="Times New Roman"><font size="3"><br /></font></font></p><p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; text-indent: -0.25in;">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp; Interestingly, there was a gemstone convention and exhibit taking place 
right next to our hotel at the time of my visit.<span>&nbsp; </span>I also later learned that at the turn of 
the century there was a sanitarium nearby for TB patients as well as for other 
respiratory problems. It was widely known for its wonderful cures.<span>&nbsp; </span>This is an experience I will never 
forget!</p><p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; text-indent: -0.25in;"><br /></p><p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; text-indent: -0.25in;"><p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; text-indent: -0.25in;"><b>Author's Note:</b> I have taken off the comments portion of this blog as I was getting a great deal of Spam comments. All of these articles may still be read from the blog. If you would like to comment or talk to me, either by phone or email, please click on the "contact us" link for more information. Thanks so much for your cooperation.</p><div><br /></div></p> ]]>
        
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<entry>
    <title>William James, the Father of American Psychology helps to prove there are ghosts otherwise known as Sane Hallucinations using mediums</title>
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    <id>tag:www.karenherrick.com,2008:/blog//1.12</id>

    <published>2008-06-10T19:17:30Z</published>
    <updated>2012-03-28T01:27:25Z</updated>

    <summary><![CDATA[James and his colleagues were the founding members of the American Society for Psychical Research, in l885, in Boston, decided to argue with religion and risk the contempt of other colleagues by believing in spirits or ghosts in the afterlife.&nbsp;...]]></summary>
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        <![CDATA[<span class="mt-enclosure mt-enclosure-image" style="display: inline;"><img alt="Wm_james.jpg" src="http://www.karenherrick.com/blog/images/Wm_james.jpg" class="mt-image-left" style="margin: 0pt 20px 20px 0pt; float: left;" height="345" width="235" /></span>James and his colleagues were the founding members of the American Society for Psychical Research, in l885, in Boston, decided to argue with religion and risk the contempt of other colleagues by believing in spirits or ghosts in the afterlife.&nbsp; The ASPR wanted to operate on scientific methods and they had as a goal to bridge research and religion. They wanted to show that research and religion were compatible. They primarily studied mediums.<br /><br /><b>A medium</b> is a person who allegedly communicates with dead people or spirits. Many times the spirits also materialize while the medium is communicating with them.&nbsp; Also, tapping sounds can sometimes be heard during these communications along with levitation or movement of objects. James and his colleagues also investigated some fraudulent mediums. One particular medium who was investigated for eighteen years by James and his colleagues in the ASPR and who was found to have the true gift of Mediumship was Leonora Piper, a Boston housewife. <br /><br />Usually mediums go into a trance state, which is different than the hearing of voices and other personalities that sometimes are a part of mental illness. A Successful medium learns to control his or her trance states. Mrs. Piper stated: "To her the trance was entirely otherworldly. She said it began 'as if something were passing over my brain making it numb; a sensation similar to what I experienced when I was etherized, only the unpleasant odor of ether is absent...When she woke, her hands and arms tingled.&nbsp; She could see the occupants of the room again, but only at a distance." (Blum, 2006, p. 181)<br /><br />A report was completed in 1894 by some of the founding members of the ASPR who worked with James. This report entitled "Census of Hallucinations" was presented at the International Congress of Experimental Psychology, which convened in Paris for the first time on August 6-10, 1889. This conference was held to teach "what psychologists generally would describe as casual hallucinations of sane persons" (Blum (2006), p. 393).&nbsp; England, France, Germany Russia and Brazil also participated giving reports. The British census of 17,000 surveyed was the largest and the American study of&nbsp; 7, 123 surveyed was second. "All concluded that death-day apparitions occurred in startling numbers.&nbsp; In other words, they stated that a ghost appearing after the person dies is a proven fact." (Blum (2006), pp. 182-183)<br /><br />It is interesting that in 1889 there was apparently a distinction between "hallucinations of sane persons" and those of insane persons; whereas, it is widely perceived among psychology colleagues and peers at the present time that hallucinations are generally labels as psychotic experiences and are viewed negatively.<div><br /> <div><div><b>Author's Note:</b> I have taken off the comments portion of this blog as I was getting a great deal of Spam comments. All of these articles may still be read from the blog. If you would like to comment or talk to me, either by phone or email, please click on the "contact us" link for more information. Thanks so much for your cooperation.</div></div><div><br /></div></div>]]>
        
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<entry>
    <title>Ghosts or Speaking to the Dead</title>
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    <id>tag:www.karenherrick.com,2008:/blog//1.11</id>

    <published>2008-06-10T19:11:51Z</published>
    <updated>2012-03-28T01:27:48Z</updated>

    <summary>The Gallup Poll in 2005 stated that 32% of Americans believed in spirits of dead people returning and 21% of Americans believe in mentally communicating with someone who has died. Raymond Moody reports that two-thirds of widows experience a visit...</summary>
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        <![CDATA[The Gallup Poll in 2005 stated that 32% of Americans believed in spirits of dead people returning and 21% of Americans believe in mentally communicating with someone who has died. <a href="http://lifeafterlife.com/">Raymond Moody</a> reports that two-thirds of widows experience a visit from their spouse within one year of his death (Moody, Lecture Series, 2003).&nbsp; At this time, there are no statistics for heterosexual males whose wives die before them.<br /><div><br /></div><div><div>Author's Note: I have taken off the comments portion of this blog as I was getting a great deal of Spam comments. All of these articles may still be read from the blog. If you would like to comment or talk to me, either by phone or email, please click on the "contact us" link for more information. Thanks so much for your cooperation.</div></div><div><br /></div>]]>
        
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<entry>
    <title>About This Blog...</title>
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    <id>tag:www.karenherrick.com,2008:/blog//1.10</id>

    <published>2008-06-10T19:04:38Z</published>
    <updated>2012-03-28T01:28:20Z</updated>

    <summary><![CDATA[Mainline psychology and science has painstakingly avoided the existence of spirits or dismissed them as mental illness. These types of spirits would be:&nbsp;• "The spirit aspect of a living human, as documented in research on Near-Death Experiences;• The spirit aspect...]]></summary>
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        <![CDATA[Mainline psychology and science has painstakingly avoided the existence of spirits or dismissed them as mental illness. These types of spirits would be:<br />&nbsp;<br /><blockquote><blockquote>• "The spirit aspect of a living human, as documented in research on Near-Death Experiences;<br />• The spirit aspect of a deceased human such as has been reported in literature on apparitions and ascended masters; and <br />• Spirit entities that have never incarnated on Earth, as reported in religious literature, as angels, archangels, etc" (Gough &amp; Shacklett (2000), p. 127).<br /></blockquote></blockquote><br />However, 30-50% of the population in the United States and England are having these experiences. There are very few places in our culture in the United States that accepts spiritual experiences. This blog is for those of you who have had Spiritual Experiences and for those of you who are interested in them for some reason.<br /><br /><b>A Spiritual Experience (SE) is basically the experience of the spirit or another definition that has proved helpful to others is "a transcendent relationship between the person and a Higher Being, a quality that goes beyond a specific religious affiliation" (Peterson &amp; Nelson, 1987).<br /></b><br />These experiences are linked to a history of childhood trauma especially physical and sexual abuse.&nbsp; It has been said that certain people have these experiences as a kind of compensatory gift in return for the wounds they have incurred in growing up.&nbsp; In any type of a SE, the ability to dissociate, which one learned to do while experiencing trauma, can be a positive happening.&nbsp; In one study, 95% of <b>adult children of alcoholic parents (ACOAs)</b> reported have had many psychic experiences as compared to 69% of those without alcoholic parents (Wright (Oct, 2007), p. 25).<div><br /></div><div><div><b>Author's Note</b>: I have taken off the comments portion of this blog as I was getting a great deal of Spam comments. All of these articles may still be read from the blog. If you would like to comment or talk to me, either by phone or email, please click on the "contact us" link for more information. Thanks so much for your cooperation.</div><div><br /></div><br /> </div>]]>
        
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<entry>
    <title>Former Red Bank Resident Featured On Oprah On Past-Life Therapy</title>
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    <id>tag:www.karenherrick.com,2008:/blog//1.9</id>

    <published>2008-05-25T19:12:37Z</published>
    <updated>2012-03-28T01:29:35Z</updated>

    <summary><![CDATA[Dr. Brian Weiss, a leading expert in past lives and a past-life regression therapist, raised on Spring Street in Red Bank, was featured on Oprah on May 13, 2008.&nbsp;&nbsp; He started the show explaining:&nbsp; "Hypnosis gives us a direct line...]]></summary>
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        <![CDATA[Dr. Brian Weiss, a leading expert in past lives and a past-life regression therapist, raised on Spring Street in Red Bank, was featured on Oprah on May 13, 2008.&nbsp;&nbsp; He started the show explaining:&nbsp; "Hypnosis gives us a direct line in to your unconscious.&nbsp; Hypnosis is focused concentration while your body is relaxed.&nbsp; It usually takes 10-12 sessions to get to a past life before people are open enough to have that clear channel.&nbsp; About 20% of the population is easily hypnotized."<br /><br />
<p>The show began with Dr. Weiss hypnotizing certain members of the audience who had volunteered.&nbsp; When questioned, a black woman in the audience said "It weirded me out because I was white and I was a nun.&nbsp; I am so unlike a nun now."&nbsp; Another person in the audience reported that this first time she went deep into regression "I thought I was in a swamp.&nbsp; I looked down and I had men's legs.&nbsp; I was actually murdered. I was killed with a knife.&nbsp;&nbsp; Later I saw my Dad and sister who had passed over."</p>
<p>Another female in the audience stated in her regression she was a Native American and she had children.&nbsp; She was very emotional because in this life she would love to have children but doesn't.&nbsp; The first life she saw she died and her children lived.&nbsp; "I have had many women go through this and then get pregnant" Dr Weiss stated.&nbsp; He continued, "We change race and religions in different lives.&nbsp; We are all connected.&nbsp; It's not about color or race.&nbsp; We have all been black, white, red, etc.&nbsp; We have been everything."</p>
<p>In the next part of the show Dr. Weiss told how he was not a believer in past lives until one of his clients, an adult child of an alcoholic named Catherine, after more than one year of conventional treatment, suddenly "went back to the root of her problem," which was a past life.&nbsp; Dr Weiss did what every therapist does.&nbsp; He took notes even though he was not open to past lives.&nbsp; "With each new session came new discoveries and more and more past lives.&nbsp; I was shocked.&nbsp; I thought it was imagination or fantasy but she was staring to heal.&nbsp; She was a Catholic woman from New England and didn't believe in past lives either."</p>
<p>Dr. Weiss was concerned because as he became more and more interested in Past-Life Regression Therapy, if this information became known, his license could have been suspended and he could have lost everything as Head of Psychiatry of the hospital where he worked.&nbsp; "But it was so real and so detailed" that he continued this work and researched this type of therapy.&nbsp; During one session Catherine gave him personal information about his father and a thirteen-week old son who had both died.&nbsp; "No one could have told her this information.&nbsp; You know how you get a feeling in your bones that this is just real?&nbsp; Past lives are here to teach us about life and death and what happens after that," he said.&nbsp; </p>
<p>Dr. Oz, a frequent guest on Oprah's show, also received a past-life regression.&nbsp; He stated:&nbsp; "It's happened to all of us, getting this direct line. When you're driving alone and missing an exit on the highway because you are in auto pilot is one good example.&nbsp; Only by observing what's really happening can we begin to get our arms around a new concept.&nbsp; That's what fascinated me so much about this whole process."</p>
<p>Dr. Oz continued explaining, "As I entered into a deeper state of awareness, I felt it might be tedious.&nbsp; But I ended up with a memory.&nbsp; A dream I had before entering Kindergarten.&nbsp; In this dream, my father is taking me by the hand to these men from the Ottoman Empire.&nbsp; They are professors in school.&nbsp; They are writing down my lessons and what I am to learn.&nbsp; They are not joking around.&nbsp; It seems to me that they were planning my life. Then I ended up in this space that many of my patients describe as being in a space where they can see lights.&nbsp; A stream of people was going past me.&nbsp; They didn't have faces.&nbsp; They were energy.&nbsp; It was sixty minutes long and it felt like just a few minutes that I had been under."</p>
<p>Dr. Oz stated that the collective unconscious of Carl Jung is where past lives are stored.&nbsp; "In this society, we have gotten addicted that the answer will be there.&nbsp; We are uncomfortable with the mystery of certain experiences.&nbsp; Sometimes we have to take the leap and deal with the unknown."</p>
<p>A former guest named Leon, a funeral director, was asked to return to the show to be regressed.&nbsp; He telepathically received the message "They want me to tell people they are OK." "That's good.&nbsp; Who are they?" Dr. Weiss asked.&nbsp; "The dead people."&nbsp; "OK that's good and you can tell them that.&nbsp; You have your own experience now."&nbsp; When Oprah asked who was the message coming from Leon explained "It's just a real strong feeling.&nbsp; I have always felt this energy.&nbsp; It's more of a spirit thing than a voice."&nbsp;<br /></p>
<p>Leon continued in his regression to have memories of watching a woman who is his sister in this life be a rape victim whom he could not help.&nbsp; He explained that he has always had problems in his relationship with his sister now, which he feels have been released by this memory.&nbsp;&nbsp; He also has had flying dreams since he was young and he experienced a past life where his airplane was shot down because of his behavior. As his own plane crashes, Dr. Weiss stated:&nbsp; "When I touch your forehead you will leave that experience.&nbsp; Just float above it.&nbsp; You are relieved."</p>Dr. Weiss ended the show by explaining "All of your minds are connected.&nbsp; I see God everywhere in this.&nbsp; We are like ice cubes, which are made from water.&nbsp; The water melts and now there's no individuality anymore.&nbsp; People are like the ice cubes.&nbsp; We think we are separate from everybody else but we are not.&nbsp; We melt into a spiritual sea.&nbsp; Love is the organizing spirit of it all.&nbsp; God is in all of us.&nbsp; We are all souls and we are all connected."<br />
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<span class="mt-enclosure mt-enclosure-image" style="DISPLAY: inline"><a href="http://www.oprah.com/xm/oprah/200703/oprah_20070301.jhtml"><img class="mt-image-center" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0pt auto 20px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" height="233" alt="oprah.jpg" src="http://www.karenherrick.com/blog/images/oprah.jpg" width="464" /></a></span><div><b>Author's Note:</b> I have taken off the comments portion of this blog as I was getting a great deal of Spam comments. All of these articles may still be read from the blog. If you would like to comment or talk to me, either by phone or email, please click on the "contact us" link for more information. Thanks so much for your cooperation.</div></div><div><br /></div>]]>
        
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<entry>
    <title>Naming Spiritual Experiences</title>
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    <id>tag:www.karenherrick.com,2008:/blog//1.8</id>

    <published>2008-05-25T19:07:42Z</published>
    <updated>2012-03-28T01:30:35Z</updated>

    <summary>Is there something that&apos;s happened to you that you are anxious about telling others? Would you explain this with the words &quot;You&apos;re going to think I&apos;m crazy when I tell you and I don&apos;t really have the words to explain...</summary>
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        <![CDATA[<div><br /></div>Is there something that's happened to you that you are anxious about
telling others? Would you explain this with the words "You're going to
think I'm crazy when I tell you and I don't really have the words to
explain this to you but...."<br /><br />Many times what has
happened to you is a spiritual experience (an SE). 30-50% of the
population in the United States and England have had these types of
experiences. Some are: mystical experiences, near-death experiences,
speaking with the dead, feeling the presence of someone who has died as
being with you, seeing angels, synchroncities, which are at least two
random events that happen just to you and are very meaningful, etc.<br /><br />These
types of experiences add meaning to your life; however, you are afraid
to share them for fear of being considered "crazy." Our society does
not have a place for these experiences. I am hoping that this blog will
help to create a consensus that these SEs are happening to many more
people than 30-50% of the population.<br /><br />What do you think? <div><br /></div><div><div><b>Author's Note</b>: I have taken off the comments portion of this blog as I was getting a great deal of Spam comments. All of these articles may still be read from the blog. If you would like to comment or talk to me, either by phone or email, please click on the "contact us" link for more information. Thanks so much for your cooperation.</div></div><div><br /></div>]]>
        
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    <title>You&apos;re Not Finished Yet</title>
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    <id>tag:www.karenherrick.com,2008:/blog//1.7</id>

    <published>2008-05-25T18:59:58Z</published>
    <updated>2012-03-28T01:32:28Z</updated>

    <summary><![CDATA[Dr. Raymond E. Moody, Jr. states: "Karen E. Herrick is a new breed of therapist who is dealing with a vast range of experiences, which have enormous impact on people's lives.&nbsp; It has been his experience that people who have...]]></summary>
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        <![CDATA[<span class="mt-enclosure mt-enclosure-image" style="DISPLAY: inline"><img class="mt-image-right" style="FLOAT: right; MARGIN: 0pt 0pt 20px 20px" height="350" alt="book-cover.jpg" src="http://www.karenherrick.com/blog/images/book-cover.jpg" width="298" /></span>Dr. Raymond E. Moody, Jr. states: "Karen E. Herrick is a new breed of therapist who is dealing with a vast range of experiences, which have enormous impact on people's lives.&nbsp; It has been his experience that people who have Spiritual Experiences ( SEs) often tell him that neither doctors nor ministers have been able to help them understand these experiences. Karen's book does just that."<br /><br />Karen was born premature. Her mother said she was "not finished" because she had no eyebrows, fingernails or toenails.&nbsp; Thus, the title of her recently published book "You're Not Finished Yet" (ISBN# 978-9769404-9-4) has personal meaning. &nbsp;<br /><br />The book begins with a chapter on alcoholism. It ends with two chapters on developing spiritual language by naming different spiritual experiences, understanding them and our purpose in life and in death.&nbsp; In between, are four chapters more giving information ranging from exploring the characteristics, roles and personality traits one develops in a dysfunctional family, which manifests in anger and the need for drama in one's life.&nbsp; There are facts about parenting skills, values and class differences that cause disconnection within families. <br /><br />The unconscious is explained with a story about what her youngest grandson told her a few years ago.&nbsp; "It's not the unconscious, Grandma, it's the subconscious."&nbsp; When she asked him how he knew about the subconscious, he went on to explain, "Oh, I learned about it in my Calvin &amp; Hobbes book.&nbsp; It's scary down there, you need a flashlight to see and all this old stuff is piled up.&nbsp; People don't like going down there."<br /><br />Whichever you choose to call it, the book explains some Jungian concepts about how our unconscious affects us in childhood and this chapter ends with "Rules for Therapy and Life." <br /><br />Chapter 5 explains "What About The People Who Really 'Won't."&nbsp; Part of a poem that Karen authored during her PhD work with Dr. Raymond E. Moody, Jr., helps us to understand why they "won't"....<br /><br />
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<blockquote><i>"There's a breakdown in relationship at 16-30 months<br />Their ship is anchored at preverbal<br />Their pattern is a repeating compulsion of <br />A dump that's full of refuse (the unconscious)<br /></i></blockquote></blockquote><i><br /></i>
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<blockquote><i>And, piles and piles keep building up<br />Around the house to show<br />Their sewer will be anywhere <br />To tell Mama, I say, 'NO!'<br /></i></blockquote></blockquote><i><br /></i>
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<blockquote><i>They are the King and Queen of self-contradictions<br />Their workloads are unassailable<br />They choose procrastination, pretense, hypocrisy and<br />Leave us no reward for being so tenacious..."&nbsp; (p. 66)</i><br /></blockquote></blockquote></blockquote></blockquote></blockquote><br />The mind/body connection is described in Karen's flashback of a personal incest memory, which was triggered by her chiropractor finally repairing one side of her neck so she could turn it completely to the left.&nbsp; She continues to explain that many times people who have experienced trauma in childhood learn how to dissociate, which gives them the ability to have SEs easier in adulthood.<br /><br />One of these types of SEs is a meaningful "Radio Synchronistic Event, which some therapists might call an "idea of reference," - a symptom that schizophrenics exhibit in mental hospitals.&nbsp; This is one of the lines that will have to be established between psychological definitions and the paranormal as therapists and clients name different types of SEs.<br /><br />An acquaintance who had just recovered from cancer tells how she was having a bad day and was in her car asking God the "Why did this have to happen to me?" question, when she turned on her radio to hear, "When will you believe in me as much as I believe in you?"&nbsp; She knew these words were meant for her as an answer to her question."&nbsp; (p. 95)<br /><br />Karen finds that in discussing spirituality with her clients she has been told many "weird" SEs.&nbsp; One such person was Pat Thoms. This is how Pat's book, "Signs of Life," (ISBN 0-9744744-7-9) came to be. &nbsp;<br /><br />In explaining how "It's All Consciousness" (p. 124), Karen aid's therapists, clients and lay people to understand angelic experiences, "Praying to Ancestors", and the difference between what is paranormal and what is spiritual.&nbsp; This book has many headings. It is designed to be read from one to three pages at a time to teach the concept of each heading.<br /><br />Karen has shared her clinical expertise for the past twenty+ years in her private practice in Red Bank by lecturing throughout the US on dysfunctional homes, grief, loss and dissociation.&nbsp; She is actively involved in her PhD work researching, writing and speaking on Spiritual Psychology especially since she has discovered that only 33% of the professionals she surveyed believed in the ability to recognize the difference between spiritual and psychotic experiences.<br /><br /><br />If you're interested in ordering, please call click <a href="http://www.karenherrick.com/book.html">here</a>.&nbsp;<div><br /></div><div><div><b>Author's Note:</b> I have taken off the comments portion of this blog as I was getting a great deal of Spam comments. All of these articles may still be read from the blog. If you would like to comment or talk to me, either by phone or email, please click on the "contact us" link for more information. Thanks so much for your cooperation.</div><div><br /></div><br />
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<entry>
    <title>Denial is Not a River in Egypt</title>
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    <id>tag:www.karenherrick.com,2008:/blog//1.6</id>

    <published>2008-05-25T18:57:06Z</published>
    <updated>2012-03-28T01:36:14Z</updated>

    <summary>This article was originally published February 20-27, 1998 in The Two River Times, a Red Bank, NJ newspaper. Two weeks ago, Little Silver resident Karen Herrick received a call from Washington, D.C. asking if she&apos;d be willing to appear on...</summary>
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        <![CDATA[<p><font face="Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica">This article was originally published February 20-27, 1998 in The Two River Times, a Red Bank, NJ newspaper.</font></p>
<p><font face="Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica">Two weeks ago, Little Silver resident Karen Herrick received a call from Washington, D.C. asking if she'd be willing to appear on the McLaughlin Group, a weekend discussion program centering on a current event. The topic about to be discussed was the characteristics of adult children of alcoholics as they relate to the President of the United States. Herrick was asked to appear with psychologist Dr. Paul Fick, who in 1994 wrote a book titled, "The Dysfunctional President," examining the impact of Clinton's childhood on his behavior as president. </font></p>
<p><font face="Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica">Herrick immediately said yes. A licensed social worker and certified alcoholism counselor, Herrick founded the Center for Children of Alcoholics in Red Bank 15 years ago. Since then, she has worked with thousands of individuals and families affected by addiction.</font></p>
<p><font face="Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica">Because his mother was addicted to gambling and he is the stepson and adopted son of an alcoholic, Herrick says, she has taken a particular interest in Bill Clinton ever since he ran for national office. A high-achieving 'family hero,' Clinton exhibits many of the personality traits typical of children of alcoholics, Herrick says. Those characteristics include having difficulty with intimate relationships, judging themselves without mercy, and having a tendency to "lie when it would be just as easy to tell the truth."</font></p>
<p><font face="Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica">For that reason, Herrick's clients also tend to cast an interested eye on the Chief of State. "They watch him, because he's one of them," she says. Herrick, too, is 'one of them.'</font></p>
<p><font face="Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica">The daughter of an often violent mother and alcoholic father, Herrick married and later divorced her high school sweetheart, with whom she had two children; then married a former boss, moving with him to Rumson after a job transfer from California. The promise of an idyllic life ultimately fell apart as her husband's alcoholism took its toll on the family.</font></p>
<p><font face="Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica">When the emotional abuse became physical, Herrick took her three children and left the marriage for good. With no self-confidence and no particular sense of direction, she began taking courses at Brookdale Community College. After earning an associate's degree, she transferred to Jersey City State College where she graduated magna cum laude the year her divorce became final. She was 39 years old. She entered the graduate program at the Rutgers School of Social Work. Despite her academic success, Herrick struggled with a deep sense of inadequacy, believing that everyone else was smarter than she; that her admission to graduate school was "a fluke." It was while taking a class on alcohol, drugs and human behavior at Rutgers that Herrick first recognized that the pattern the instructor was describing fit like a dysfunctional Cinderella's shoe. She had found her life's work.</font></p>
<p><font face="Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica">After earning a master's degree in social work from Rutgers, she began work as an alcoholism counselor, leading workshops for adult children of alcoholics through the Monmouth County office of the National Council on Alcoholism, serving as a community counselor in Union Beach and founding her own Center for Children of Alcoholics in 1987. In the years since, Herrick has counseled thousands of children of alcoholics, written numerous articles for professional journals and lectured widely in her field.</font></p>
<p><font face="Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica">In her lectures, Herrick often brings up her own 'war stories' form the emotional battlefield that is the home territory of adult children from alcoholic homes. One story she tells about the old days is how she'd buy a box of ice cream sandwiches when she went grocery shopping, line them up on the dashboard of her car and eat them one by one, all by herself, before going home. The behavior had little to do with liking ice cream sandwiches and a lot to do with a need to deny uncomfortable emotions.</font></p>
<p><font face="Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica">To Herrick and other alcoholism professionals state that the key to President Clinton's present predicament has its roots in his family pattern of addictive behavior. Referring to a recent newspaper headline, "President in Crisis," Herrick comments, "Why would you expect any other kind of headline for a child of an alcoholic? Untreated, they keep causing it.. ."The "bimbo eruptions" that have shadowed the president's career are evidence of what Herrick believes is sexual compulsion as strong as other kinds of addiction. Herrick sees a connection between Clinton's mother's penchant for heavy makeup and flamboyant clothes, and his alleged attraction to women with similiar styles.</font></p>
<p><font face="Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica">Herrick says she is inclined to believe the latest allegations. "That's how compulsion is," she says. "You say you are not going to do it anymore, then the anxiety builds up, then you start to think about it, then you plan it, then you do it. Then you feel guilty. You feel bad and then you are "good" for awhile. It's also a thinking addiction. You need help to stop."</font></p>
<p><font face="Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica">Transcripts from the divorce hearing of President Clinton's mother, Virginia, and stepfather, Roger, in 1959, hold evidence of a family in crisis. An article by Paul Elovitz in "The Journal of Psychohistory," quotes the 14-year-old Bill Clinton's testimony from the transcript: "I was present on March 27,1959, and it was I who called my mother's attorney, who in turn had to get the police to come to the house to arrest the defendant. The last occasion in which I went to my mother's aid, when he was abusing my mother, he threatened to mash my face in if I took her part." Though granted the divorce, Virginia Clinton remarried her husband three months later--an act which Herrick and others in the field interpret as betrayal of her son.</font></p>
<p><font face="Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica">Hillary Clinton's strength during the most recent flurry of embarrassing publicity is classic 'enabling' behavior, Herrick believes. "Her identity is all tied up with keeping him and them looking good. As bright as she is, she hasn't done it for herself. Her identity is making him look good so she still has a job...they are the closest when something like this happens. That's when Hillary would feel needed the most."</font></p>
<p><font face="Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica">Herrick's appearance with Dr. Fick on the McLaughlin Group brought a flurry of criticism from radio personality Rush Limbaugh, who interpreted their contention that the president has an addiction that requires treatment as a way of excusing bad behavior.</font></p>
<p><font face="Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica">"It doesn't excuse his behavior," says Herrick. "He has to take responsibility for it. I don't know why people think if you say you have an addiction, that excuses it. It's just the opposite. That's when you have to take responsibility for the first time."</font></p>
<p><font face="Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica"><strong>Source: Two River Times newspaper, Red Bank, NJ 2/98</strong></font></p><p><font face="Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica"><strong><p><b>Author's Note:</b> I have taken off the comments portion of this blog as I was getting a great deal of Spam comments. All of these articles may still be read from the blog. If you would like to comment or talk to me, either by phone or email, please click on the "contact us" link for more information. Thanks so much for your cooperation.</p><div><br /></div></strong></font></p><p><font face="Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica"><strong><br /></strong></font></p>]]>
        
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    <title>Only The Shadow Knows</title>
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    <id>tag:www.karenherrick.com,2008:/blog//1.5</id>

    <published>2008-05-25T18:44:05Z</published>
    <updated>2012-03-28T01:36:55Z</updated>

    <summary>Carl Jung stated that the unconscious was 80% of our psyche, called THE SHADOW, which is positive and negative repressed content from our childhood, daily lives and our potential aspects. There is also a collective shadow, aspects which society does...</summary>
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        <![CDATA[<p align="justify"><font face="Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica">Carl Jung stated that the unconscious was 80% of our psyche, called THE
SHADOW, which is positive and negative repressed content from our childhood, daily lives
and our potential aspects. There is also a collective shadow, aspects which society does
not to wish to claim. The shadow is emotion almost <u>always accompanied by physical
manifestations</u>. Jung stated your body was your shadow. The shadow represents
energetically charged autonomous patterns of feeling and behavior that simply cannot be
stopped by an act of will. What is needed is rechanneling or transformation. Therapy
provides this. </font></p>

<p align="justify"><font face="Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica">Shadow usually is shown when we have someone in our life we are
compulsive about (either positive or negatively) - our thinking becomes addictive about
this person, about what we're going to do with them, about them, etc. We usually use
PROJECTION or blaming - the attribution of one's faults to others in order not to own our
shadow qualities. </font></p>

<p align="left"><font face="Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica">We have islands in our unconscious of feelings that keep popping up. The
shadow also contains the voices of the people who raised us saying, usually, negative
messages that we allow to be repeated over and over to ourselves in our mind. Some other
shadow characteristics are denial, repression, cynicism, masochism or sadism,
ruthlessness, suffering martyr, guilt-ridden behavior, enabling behaviors, inability to
commit, pride, jealousy, envy, self-destructiveness of all types, creation of negative
circumstances, control, rigidness, tyrannical behavior, judgment (positive and negative),
laziness, gluttony, irresponsibility, etc. </font></p>

<p align="justify"><font face="Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica">We have positive shadow also - for ACOA's some characteristics are the
ability to play, sense of humor, risk taking, and having good things happen to us and
accepting them. Also, the knowledge of positive things about our personality is sometimes
in our shadow. </font></p>

<font face="Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica">The shadow is shown in stories and myths as meeting "the other" (remember
that nothing is so opposite as "the other person" who contains your shadow
qualities and that you WON'T and DON'T see in yourself). You meet this other and then
descend to the underworld to wrestle with the ogre or animal, battle doubt and temptation
and expose and beat the evil one. This is the dark night of the soul battle and YOU ARE
THE ENEMY WHO MUST BE LOVED - <u>BY YOU</u>. This moment when you begin this battle is
really when your core issue stage of therapy actually begins! (Please see Stages of
Therapy for more info on core issues).</font> <div><font face="Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica"><br /></font></div><div><font face="Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica"><div><b>Author's Note:</b> I have taken off the comments portion of this blog as I was getting a great deal of Spam comments. All of these articles may still be read from the blog. If you would like to comment or talk to me, either by phone or email, please click on the "contact us" link for more information. Thanks so much for your cooperation.</div><div><br /></div></font></div><div><font face="Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica"><br /></font></div>]]>
        
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